Hi Friends! If you’re reading this (it’s too late… jk, I just love Drake), it’s probably because you saw a link about it on social media. These days, it seems that the biggest way we interact with one another is through some form of social media. It’s a great tool for connecting with people who you don’t see often, meeting new, like-minded people, sharing our opinions and even taking care of our mental health. But how far is too far when it comes to engaging in social media? Have you ever caught yourself an hour deep intro scrolling, feeling hopeless and unworthy? Why is it that social media can make us feel so good by connecting us with others, but yet can also make us feel so isolated, alone and unworthy in the process? This is an issue I have personally struggled with a lot, and until I discovered the concept of self-love, I hadn’t actually given much thought to the way social media affected my mental health, and aggravated my mental illness. I used to spend (and sometimes still do) hours every night scrolling through pictures upon pictures of #BodyGoals, #BootyGoals, #Fitspo accounts, and I would always end the night wondering why I felt so down in the dumps every day. The reason was, without really realizing what I was doing, I was scrolling and comparing my body to these ‘beautiful’, ‘idealistic’ people that I saw online and evaluating my own self-worth based on how much I didn’t look like them. It truly is a dangerous game to play. A really great saying that I like to remember is:” Comparison is the thief of joy” because it is absolutely true. In comparing myself to others, I hated myself. Why wasn’t I as thin, or curvaceous in all the right places as these girls were? Why wasn’t my hair as long and beautiful, or my clothes as chic and fashionable as them? Would I be happier if I was more like them? The answer to that, my friends, is no..heck no! The problem with social media (especially Instagram that’s very picture-focused), is that we only see what others want us to see. That is something easy to forget when you’re hours deep into an anxiety-fueled Instagram scrolling spiral. How many of those pictures are heavily edited to portray only the ‘good’ features? How many people really have a ‘perfect’ relationship where they never ever argue? These are things I had to start asking myself in order to realize that punishing myself and devaluing myself based on the fact that I couldn’t live up to a fake, heavily edited picture of another woman’s butt that I saw online, was simply ridiculous. Recently, I de-cluttered my social media accounts and ridded myself of any account that I followed that made me feel negatively about myself in any way. And let me tell you, it has been LIBERATING. I also made it a point of following/keeping only accounts that had a positive impact on my mental health and my self-esteem. I like to follow people who are inspiring, and people who are real and raw about their journeys through life (So basically all of the amazing SelfLoveSupply BAs!). I’m learning to love myself now more than I ever have in my entire life. I’m spending less time on social media, and I’m starting (or trying my best) to not give a flying fudge about what anything thinks and just live my BEST, self-loving life. Try it sometime, I bet you’ll be surprised at what a difference a small change can make!
Remember to love yourselves always, xoxo.